I’m so excited to share one of my favorite tips with you today.
This is something I learned years ago from a friend of mine who is a dietician…and I still use it today when I go to events and parties and such. It is such a game-changer!
Rank your food!!!
I know it sounds funny, but the video will explain everything!
And I hope it will give you some peace and reassure you that your health journey isn’t about giving up everything you love or never eating your favorite hot wings or enjoying a glass of wine ever again!
Guess what! You CAN be healthy WITHOUT feeling deprived. You can go to a cookout or a birthday party and enjoy some of your favorite foods and still move forward in your journey! It’s true!
It’s just about learning some tips and tricks, like this one, that help us navigate those things, you know?
Here’s one of my favorite tips! I hope it helps you as much as it has helped me!
Chad and I finished a good workout the other day and we were feeling pretty great! It was tough, but we felt strong and satisfied! Of course, we had to take our sweaty selfie (because does it even count if there’s no picture?!” />)
And I’m telling you, what unfolded over the next few minutes 1) made us CRY from laughing so hard, and 2) showed a valuable lesson that was wrapped up in there…
Here’s how it all went down…
We took the first picture (top right) and Chad saw it and said, “Man, look at my love handles!”” />
First of all, stop right there…have you ever done that?! Have you ever taken a picture, looked at it, and been like, “Oh my gosh, look at my love handles/thighs/arms/neck/stomach!” ” /> I think we’ve all been there. Just wanted to point that out so you know you’re not the only one who has ever felt that way. ” />
Anyway, Chad said, “Let’s take it again. I’m going to flex lower so it covers my love handles.”
So, we took it again. He looked at the second picture, frustrated. “Ugh, now I have a gut!”
After looking at the picture for a few seconds, he said, “WAIT! I’ve seen girls on social media squeeze their stomach tight and then cover their love handles with their hands on the side. Let’s try that!”
Of course, by this point, we were laughing pretty hard…but it gets even better…
Because then, Chad had an idea. He said, “I know what to do! I’ll just pull my shorts up and cover it all up!” (It’s ok to laugh…I did” />)
Meanwhile, I’m standing there with the same pose, wondering how many pictures we have to take before he’s satisfied.
NOT because I have the perfect body or anything…but because I’ve been taking sweaty selfless for 9 years and I know how to pose, how to pop my butt, where to put my hands, the right angles for a good picture. ” />
And see, I think that’s one of the biggest problems with social media these days…
We scroll through our Facebook or Instagram feed and see girls (and guys) with perfect hair, defined muscles, and of course, they are just glowing…while we feel like a sweaty MESS. ” />
We compare our “backstage” to everyone else’s front stage.
We squeeze and tuck and hold our breath while we take picture after picture, trying to find one that is Instagram worthy…yet we see someone else’s photo and assume they just snapped it on the first try, not even giving it a second thought.
We all have a backstage. The picture we finally decide to post on social media is just a glimpse. It’s our “best” side. It doesn’t show the behind the scenes…the love handles or the gut or what’s behind the high-waisted pants.
So stop comparing. Stop beating yourself up. Stop expecting your backstage to look like everyone else’s front stage.
And know you’re not alone. You aren’t the only one who takes a pic and doesn’t always like what you see. No matter what Instagram would lead you to believe.” />
We are heading into my absolute favorite season, and I couldn’t be more excited!
Yes, it’s finally fall…but more specifically, it’s almost Thanksgiving! I mean, if I could make Thanksgiving last all year, I totally would!
But since I can’t, we’ve decided to just bring a little bit of Thanksgiving into our everyday lives.
Seriously, hang around me for 5 minutes and you’ll probably hear me talk about this topic.
It really is that important!!!
I mean, did you know that what you focus on, you actually get more of? Man, when you really understand that fact and how it works in your everyday life, it changes how you see the world. It changes how you see your family, your relationships, yourself.
Imagine if you woke up in the morning, looked around, and noticed all of the things in your life you weren’t happy with… Maybe you look over and see socks on the floor, because your husband didn’t put them in the hamper. You walk down the stairs and see the kids’ toys on the floor. There are dishes in the sink. Unopened mail on the counter. Your to-do list is already staring you in the face, and the day has barely even begun.
How do you feel?
Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Exhausted? Maybe even hopeless?
And when you feel that way, you tend to find even more reasons to feel that way, right? Your focus is on the negative, so what do you get? More negative.
I get it! Trust me, I know what that’s like! I know how that feels.
But there’s something so powerful I’ve learned, and it has helped me to overcome that frustration, overwhelm and exhaustion.
Are you ready for this?
It works both ways! It really does! If what you focus on is what you get more of, what do you think happens when you focus on the positive?
Yep, you get more positive!
So, how do you focus on the positive, even when things are hard? Even when you’re struggling in your marriage, or you’re having a hard time with the kids, or money is tight, or you’re just flat-out exhausted from life?
One word: gratitude.
I know you’ve probably heard this before, but gratitude really is a game-changer! I know it sure was for me 5 years ago. I made gratitude part of my morning routine, and it is still a key part of my morning, to this day.
Why? Because it keeps me focused on what’s going right. It reminds me how God has been moving in my life.
Even if there are socks on the floor, I can choose to be grateful that I have a floor for them to be on, and I have a husband I love (who sometimes leaves socks on the floor).
Even if there are toys in the floor, I can choose to be grateful for the laughter my kids and I shared as we played with those toys the night before.
Even if there are dishes in the sink, I can choose to be grateful for the food we cooked and the meal we shared as a family.
Do you get what I’m saying? Gratitude changes your perspective. It changes the way you see the world. It’s almost like a lens you see the world through.
When you choose to see the world through that lens, and you focus on all of those positive things, you actually begin to see even more positivity!
You begin to notice things all around you that you are grateful for. Those few moments of peace and quiet, as you sit down and drink your coffee with your spouse in the morning. The laughter as the kids come running down the stairs. The food on your plate. The few minutes you carve out in the middle of the day to sit on the floor and play trains with your youngest. The work you do, that provides for your family. The cars you drive. The house you live in. The love that fills your home.
Is every moment perfect? No way! Do things always go right? Nope!
But when you focus on the good things, that’s what you get more of.
So, I have a challenge for you…
For the next 30 days, what if you grab a journal write down 3 things you are grateful for every single morning? If you don’t have a journal, just grab some paper, staple it together, and BAM- you’ve got yourself a gratitude journal!
Just 3 things…that’s all it takes to begin to set your focus in the right direction. And remember, what you focus on is what you get more of. So intentionally FOCUS on the good in your life!
If you really want to take this to the next level, make a goal to write 3 different and specific things each day. Studies have shown this is the most effective way to cultivate gratitude.
I do this every single day. I wouldn’t be asking you to do it if I didn’t think it was truly going to help you! I’m asking you because I know just how powerful it is! It really is life-changing!
So, commit to this for the next 30 days, and I promise you will be happier and more fulfilled. What do you have to lose?